sex ruins everything.

yes.  it does.  when you have sex outside of marriage, it. ruins. EVERYTHING! and not just intercourse, but fooling around, too!  i don't care who you are or how much you think it won't affect you.  it does.  and it affects other people, too.  Seriously, I don't know how people can live like this and think it doesn't affect them.  if i think about what it would be like to have a loving spouse (or even a fiance, because you really should know these things BEFORE you tie the knot), fully committed to me, and to have to tell them that i slept with someone, or fooled around with someone, or whatever... that would KILL me to have to tell them.  and from the opposite side, if i had to hear that my fiance had done this kind of stuff with someone else, it would seriously ruin everything.  i think every time we even kissed from that point on, in the back of my mind, all i would be able to think about is how someone else had part of what was meant for me.  what was supposed to be mine and mine alone.  i know that forgiveness is supposed to happen, and i believe that you can forgive a person for these things.  however, people don't forget stuff.  and it creates distance and space in a relationship that is supposed to be an unbreakable, united, HOLY union.  I just wish people could see the full spectrum of consequences to their actions before they decided to "live in the moment."  Yea, you might be living in the moment now, but that one moment is going to follow you for the rest of your life.  Wouldn't you rather live in the moment with a person that you know will love you forever and that will always be there for you, and that only experiences sex with YOU?  Because then you don't have to think about the others.  You could focus on the one person that God gave to you.  As a GIFT.

I know I would...

My second thought for this blog is a little bit more personal (sorry).  Lately, I've been hearing a LOT of stories about people's actions with sex (outside of marriage), alcohol and other things that I have always considered to be not welcome in my life.  It seems that EVERYONE has made poor choices concerning these issues, and I have recently realized how sheltered I truly am from these kinds of things.  I literally have NO past with any of that stuff.  And satan really started making me question my decision to abstain from all this.  I mean... I'm 21 now, so what if I were to drink a little?  I could totally handle it.  Even the best of people drink sometimes, right?  And what about the whole dating thing?  It doesn't really matter if I date around while waiting for God's best, right?  What if my standards in finding a guy really are too high?  Is there a guy out there that has remained pure?  Is there someone that doesn't drink?...... And a lot of other similar type thoughts were rolling around in my head.  And this weekend, I just have had enough.  I KNOW that I dont need to experience these things to fit in with the people who have experienced them.  God can use me WITHOUT a checkered past.  I don't need to be stained by the world.  And as far as finding a husband when my standards are "ridiculously high and irrational?"  God placed these standards in my heart as a young girl, and I KNOW that there IS someone that holds to the same faith and values and standards and beliefs that I do.  If there isn't, then I don't need to be dating/marrying anyone anyways, because anyone less would just be bringing me down.


Anyway.... DON'T HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE!!!!  Think about the consequences.