yes. it does. when you have sex outside of marriage, it. ruins. EVERYTHING! and not just intercourse, but fooling around, too! i don't care who you are or how much you think it won't affect you. it does. and it affects other people, too. Seriously, I don't know how people can live like this and think it doesn't affect them. if i think about what it would be like to have a loving spouse (or even a fiance, because you really should know these things BEFORE you tie the knot), fully committed to me, and to have to tell them that i slept with someone, or fooled around with someone, or whatever... that would KILL me to have to tell them. and from the opposite side, if i had to hear that my fiance had done this kind of stuff with someone else, it would seriously ruin everything. i think every time we even kissed from that point on, in the back of my mind, all i would be able to think about is how someone else had part of what was meant for me. what was supposed to be mine and mine alone. i know that forgiveness is supposed to happen, and i believe that you can forgive a person for these things. however, people don't forget stuff. and it creates distance and space in a relationship that is supposed to be an unbreakable, united, HOLY union. I just wish people could see the full spectrum of consequences to their actions before they decided to "live in the moment." Yea, you might be living in the moment now, but that one moment is going to follow you for the rest of your life. Wouldn't you rather live in the moment with a person that you know will love you forever and that will always be there for you, and that only experiences sex with YOU? Because then you don't have to think about the others. You could focus on the one person that God gave to you. As a GIFT.
I know I would...
My second thought for this blog is a little bit more personal (sorry). Lately, I've been hearing a LOT of stories about people's actions with sex (outside of marriage), alcohol and other things that I have always considered to be not welcome in my life. It seems that EVERYONE has made poor choices concerning these issues, and I have recently realized how sheltered I truly am from these kinds of things. I literally have NO past with any of that stuff. And satan really started making me question my decision to abstain from all this. I mean... I'm 21 now, so what if I were to drink a little? I could totally handle it. Even the best of people drink sometimes, right? And what about the whole dating thing? It doesn't really matter if I date around while waiting for God's best, right? What if my standards in finding a guy really are too high? Is there a guy out there that has remained pure? Is there someone that doesn't drink?...... And a lot of other similar type thoughts were rolling around in my head. And this weekend, I just have had enough. I KNOW that I dont need to experience these things to fit in with the people who have experienced them. God can use me WITHOUT a checkered past. I don't need to be stained by the world. And as far as finding a husband when my standards are "ridiculously high and irrational?" God placed these standards in my heart as a young girl, and I KNOW that there IS someone that holds to the same faith and values and standards and beliefs that I do. If there isn't, then I don't need to be dating/marrying anyone anyways, because anyone less would just be bringing me down.
Anyway.... DON'T HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE!!!! Think about the consequences.
Saturday, May 21, 2011
Monday, May 16, 2011
Today was a GREAT day!
If I were in a Dr. Bell class, my “good things” for today would be the following:
I am so blessed :)
- Got to see my grandma Pat
- Got a job offer
- Accepted the job offer
- Completed my teacher certification in Illinois
- Finally unpacked all my stuff…
- Made the parents “so proud”
- BEAUTIFUL drive to Indian Lake
- Listened to Grandma Helen play the piano
- Had a nice talk with Grandpa George
I am so blessed :)
Monday, May 9, 2011
My Wish
So my whole life, I’ve been the type of person that wants everyone I love to be in one place. I remember as a five year old in kindergarten being asked if I could have one wish granted, what would it be? My response: that my grandma and grandpa and uncles and aunts and cousins from Charlevoix AND Perry could all live in a giant dome together with me and I would never have to be without one or the other. I wanted nothing more than for us to be together all the time. And tonight, as a 22 year old college graduate, I find myself wishing for the same thing. I want all of my family from Perry and Charlevoix and Indian Lake and Bourbonnais to all be in one place (and yes, you know who you are that I consider family J).
As I drove home on Sunday morning after graduation, I found myself crying as I got on the entrance ramp. It just hit me that I wouldn’t be coming back. It was the last time I would make that drive home (with everything I own) for the summer. I mean, I know I will see my friends again, but it will be very different. It sounds so cliché, but that is how it is. And it really sucks to think about. Anyway, I don’t even really know why I’m writing this, other than I’m sad and I want my family in one place.
I miss you!
Thursday, May 5, 2011
To my dear friends...
Just a few words about some people who have affected my life while at Olivet.
· Phil DeYoung – So one time when I was in 8th grade, you played right before me at Celebrate Life and scared me half to death. I wanted so badly to come to Olivet and play horn with you, and was so mad that it didn’t happen that way. But now, more than ever, I appreciate the way things are. You are sometimes the only person that knows how I have felt many times this past year, and I am so thankful that you have been there to talk to. I will never forget the conversation we had during band camp about why we play the horn. That single conversation has affected me more than you know, and I thank you for that. I also appreciate that your honesty with people. You are never harsh, but you never let people get away with things they shouldn’t. It’s a quality that I very much respect in you.
· Shauntia Mettlin – TIA!!! You were the first person I met at Olivet, and will probably be the last person I talk to before I leave after graduation. Holy cow. That’s weird. You’ve been a great friend the past five years. I’m going to miss our Hills parties and watching the Real World with you. You’re the only person that understands my love for trashy music and trashy TV. You’ve made my life a lot more interesting while I’ve been here. We tend to get into trouble, but it’s been fun!
· Sarah O’Neal – I’m amazed at how God sees each situation and uses them to give us exactly what we need. I’m so glad that we ended up rooming together sophomore year (and the years following), because I gained a best friend. Thanks for the shopping trips, chocolate chip cookies, movie nights (that I slept through) and all the laughs we had. And thanks for the many times you would just listen and be an encourager to me. You are a great friend, and I have missed having you around very much this past year.
· Jacqueline Rose – You are a type of friend everyone needs! No matter what, I know I can count on you to listen and not judge whatever messed up situation I am in. And you ALWAYS keep your mouth shut! Thank you lol. Thanks for always being so encouraging and supportive of me. I always appreciate your random notes of encouragement during the life’s most stressful times. If you ever need to talk, don’t hesitate to call. Or just call if you are bored. Because I’ll probably want to talk, too haha.
· Ryan Schultz – I just want to say thanks first for everything that you have done to better the music department at Olivet. I am so glad that you held us to a higher standard and that you challenged us with music that actually made us practice! Second, I want to say thanks for being such a great mentor in my life. I’ve learned so much about music, leadership, teaching, and life in general from you. I’m going to miss all those random talks in your office (“headaches,” as you like to call them). And you make my life a bit more fun, so thanks for that, too J
· Rebeckah Sterns – I sure am going to miss talking to you. You always have such a level head about everything, especially when I am freaking out. I love that I can talk to you for forever, about the same things, over and over and over, and you never complain. You’re a great listener. I think what I’m going to miss most about you is that you are so strong in your faith. You’ve been such a great mentor to me in the past couple of years, and I will miss you very much. I wish you and Randy a wonderful life together. I’ll see you at the wedding!
· Bethany and Andy Wright – What would I do without my life coach(es)? You two have been one of the biggest blessings this semester! I’m SOOO glad that we are friends. You both are always so encouraging to me in whatever new “challenge” life has thrown at me. Your Christ-like character speaks volumes about the people you are and I appreciate your input to my life more than you know. And I like your baby, too J
· Patrick Wright – wow, buddy. We’re something. That’s for sure. But I wouldn’t trade my experiences with you for anything. You’ve made me laugh, and you’ve made me cry a few times, too. But through everything, you’ve caused me to grow. You’ve been a significant part of my life the past couple years, and I sincerely wish you happiness in whatever you choose to do and wherever you decide to go. You’re my best friend, and I love you. Very much. Please, please, pleeeeease make good choices. And you better call me from time to time, because if you don’t, wellll….. just call me ;)
And I'll put these memories on here so that just in case you are reading this and don't have a facebook, you can enjoy them :)
1. Awful roommates. And their fish, Keshit, or whatever his name was...
2. Band Camp musical
3. Bedtime stories
4. Bidet
5. Bipinbop
6. Bowling. On a Tuesday. At 1:30 in the afternoon.
7. Brass Stretches in the Pit
8. Bridal Showers
9. Chris Martin’s cough
10. Conducting with Nostils…. If you know, you know…
11. Conversations in the recruiting office
12. Daily unappreciated phone calls…you know who you are. And btw, you’re welcome!
13. Dairy Queen Studio
14. DALE CLEVENGER!!!
15. Decorating after BWS
16. Drum Major Sectionals ;)
17. Family movie night/nap time
18. Five for all Forever!
19. GOBSTOPPERS!
20. Hiding from brass consort
21. I <3 Tommy H ;)
22. I put my ones up here…
23. Kendra’s ‘all-purpose’ scream
24. Late night phone calls when Harmony projects are due
25. Magic in the Rhine River
26. Mean Girls Sorority. HA!
27. My brakes going out in Chicago
28. Panera fund!
29. P-B-An-GEL-a
30. Picnic time J
31. Pink Hair!
32. Prof. Schultz’s office decorating
33. Recital after parties
34. Rest stop on I-80
35. Rocks. And More Rocks.
36. Spaghetti, Grilled Sandwiches, Oreo Balls?
37. SPLENDOR!!!
38. Spray and Wash vs. Centipede
39. Tears shed on the steps outside Larsen
40. The Chops Dance
41. The Family
42. The fruit fly trap
43. The Larsen Curse
44. The stage/pit massacre
45. TRIFECTA!!!!
46. Tweedle-Dee and Tweedle…Dee.
47. Walking around the church Parking Lot in Osco, IL. over and over and over
48. Wonderful roommates J
49. World Musics fun
50. You’re a mess!
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